Comments on: once a cheater?

By: Brrrr

Brrrr — Sun, 09 Sep 2007 02:41:21 +0000

i think definitely that once a liar/deciever/cheater etc … always one.

By: brandy

brandy — Fri, 07 Sep 2007 02:24:04 +0000

I’m late commenting everywhere, but I still wanted to write something here because I’ve been through something similar. I tried being friends with a guy who cheated on me and it just didn’t work. It was just… I could never feel like he was trustworthy again and if you don’t have that (and I didn’t) it makes any kind of relationship, friend or otherwise- really hard to pull off. If you DO find a way to do it, share the secret okay?

As for the bathing suit, congrats! I love brown and blue together. So pretty!

By: Ruby

Ruby — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 23:04:40 +0000

Nicely done on the swim suit situation! Woohoo! I am sure you will look fantabulous!
I would ix-nay the friend…I don’t think I would ever be able to trust that person again and quite frankly I would much rather have a drama free life that doesn’t involve liars, cheaters or similiar things.

By: Tam

Tam — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 21:52:25 +0000

Woot! I’ve never been called “wise” before. Thanks, Cin. Just had to comment back with that.

By: Cin

Cin — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 20:50:34 +0000

Hi – apparently I’m going to go all quote-stalkery here, but honestly it’s because I’ve been MIA for a few days and am catching up.

I think it is telling that we all assumed it was a guy, but the sad truth is that women friends can be just as bad or worse (been there, done that, buried the evidence).

The wise Tam has it right “you deserve better – whether it’s in a lover or a friend. Do yourself a favour and an honour and dump people who are toxic.”

You’ll be glad you did.

By: Tam

Tam — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 15:51:23 +0000

Hey! Interesting that we all assumed it was a guy! In any event, my advice still stands but – is this something you want to discuss with the person (for resolution/closure) before you walk away?

By: Kathryn

Kathryn — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 15:10:54 +0000

upon re-reading this I realized that it is rather misleading – the “cheater” I am referring to is NOT the hair commenter or former “love interest” in my life but, rather,someone I had considered a friend and who had been lying to me about a rather significant situation and who I completely by accident ran into the other day at Wholefoods when I was under the (wrong, apparently) impression that said friend was “out of the country for an indefinite period of time on a new job assignment”

By: The Exception

The Exception — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 13:01:58 +0000

Dishonesty in any relationship is the worst. Depending on what you want, I think the relationship can continue but, for me, it can never be what it was. It is difficult to rebuild trust once it has been lost.

By: mydogischelsea

mydogischelsea — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 05:16:36 +0000

Skorts are the best!

I don’t know what to tell you about the cheater thing. I suppose that if you have reason to believe you won’t be lied to again, then there might be reason to continue the relationship. Then again… that trust will be hard to reestablish.

By: Tam

Tam — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 04:15:25 +0000

Hey there, am back and in action once again! Sorry to read this and read in between the lines, adding it to what I already know. Am interested in the details but can already say – you deserve better – whether it’s in a lover or a friend. Do yourself a favour and an honour and dump people who are toxic.

And, congratulations on the swimsuit! A huge coup, for sure!